Hubby Who Was 100% Right About Something Still Somehow 100% Wrong About Same Thing
By: Holly Sorensen (Contributor)
Twin Falls, ID
Local hubby and Brandon’s Daddy Brett suspected that he was walking into a buzzsaw but stupidly just kept walking. The argument, as is a typical thing men do, started over (you guessed it) money and a lack of sex. Brandon’s Daddy Brett, while making perfectly reasonable and correct assumptions regarding the issue, still somehow walked away feeling as if he were still 100% wrong.
When asked about the argument, Brandon’s Daddy Brett said, and I quote, “All I said was ‘hey I noticed that we are not having sex much lately and I feel part of that could be because we are stressed about money, so maybe we should cut back a little on our spending and have more fun? I don’t need to eat fancy steaks to want to be with you.’
It is true by the way. We have $150 to our name right now and it is super stressful. I make like $100K a year. Then she goes on these shopping sprees that absolutely kill us, then complains that I am on edge all of the time. With inflation going up it is only going to get worse unless we cut back on a few things like steak for dinner three times a week. I was trying to suggest that we could still enjoy each other, and for a lot less money, though admittedly I should have put some more context behind it, but then it blew up like always because she misunderstood what I was trying to say. I knew it was going to be a long night when she said and I quote:
“No, you are right. I don’t like sex as much as I used to and I spend too much money. That is what you want me to say, right? It is the truth so what can I do about it now? I guess I can crack my legs open every time you sneeze and we can all eat Ramen noodles for dinner and that would make you happy?! That is what you are thinking. I try to look cute for you, and all you are telling me now is that you don’t care how I look and that you love me all the same! Is that what you are saying? If you want me to save your precious money and think that we will save sooooo much money that way then fine!”
And it is true. I do love her for who she is. And I don’t really recall saying that I didn’t care. But what sort of sick person uses the idea of unconditional love as a point of contention? I mean I think that is what she did. Then she somehow took my unconditional love and weaponized it against me. That is fucked up!””
When asked what he could have done to avoid the argument, Brandon’s Daddy Brett thought for a minute and then deflected the issue back to his wife who is clearly wrong as he provided evidence of her spending $75 on an online game just today without remotely caring, recently bought brand new clothes, maxed out the credit cards, and yet is technically still also 100% correct in a general way regarding her assessment of the situation, and yet doing so in such a way as to make him feel like he was way out of bounds for even bringing it up in the manner in which he did.
“I don’t know how to explain it. You think about something all day and it distresses you, and then you get home and finally bring it up in a calm manner and hope you did that right this time. Then they say “no you are right” and then the next 48 hours are pure hell with hearing how big an asshole you are for bringing it up, when in reality you were just raising a concern. Then they take your concern and twist it up in some creepy way, which is hard to argue with, because they are somehow perfectly articulating your point right back to you but with anger. Then if you show any reaction to this shit show at all, then it is YOU who is out of line. It is like you can’t win, even though you sort of just did but on some purely logical plain of existence which doesn’t apply because you are clearly wrong?”
In attempt to make amends, though he really didn’t do anything horribly wrong as far as he is concerned, Brandon’s Daddy Brent left to go to the grocery store to purchase flowers for his beleaguered wife.
At last report, the gift was met with an aggressive indifference while his wife, Brandon’s Mommy Nina also said, and I quote: “Oh, I guess we can afford flowers now. How nice. But can we afford the water to put them in? Yes? We can still afford water! How wonderful! Maybe when I put them in water my vagina will flower up and not be as dry as the Gobi desert, but it probably won’t because we never have sex, right?” all of which is absolutely partially true, yet really is beside the point and not what he said at all, according to Brandon’s Daddy Brett, though we at Mommies4Mommies can confirm that is exactly what he said, and while he is right, the way he said it was totally wrong.
“Why should I have to apologize for being right? I shouldn’t, right? Right??? Never mind. I honestly don’t get it.”
At last report he was doing just that, and that is what he should be doing, though he has a pretty valid point that he shouldn’t feel the need to in this particular! But as I remind people in my bi-weekly parent-teachers meetings: “Just because you are right doesn’t mean you have to say it”, am I right ladies?
About Post Author
